So I'm still in a lousy mood. ***BEGIN TMI WARNING*** I must be ovulating or something *** END TMI WARNING*** But yeah, I'm in a real crappy mood.
I'm on facebook all the time and see my friends who I've just met in the past few years and friends I've known a long time, making plans to do things with their other friends. Big things, small things, medium things.
Yet I post seeing if people want to go out for my birthday to a $5 comedy show and only one person responded.
I'm chopped liver. It's become painfully obvious. I mean I know it's hard for some people to drive to my house because of distance or their busy schedules, and it's hard for me to go places often because we only have one car and Danny works all the time, but no one ever wants to do anything with me.
It hurts my feelings. So that is my pity party. I suck, I'm a loser, and no one wants to be my friend. I'm sick of hearing about people going to dinner, and movies, and concerts.
I'm tired of trying so hard not to offend anyone or ruin friendships that I offer to pay for stuff etc. It gets expensive.
I need just one good friend who will let me help them and will help me in return. I've offered to take meals to people who've been in the hospital, I've invited people to dinner, I've invited people to movies. I've invited people to come over and I would cook for them, but plans always fall through it seems.
I do get to go out occasionally (like maybe once a month) but more often than not I see people who always profess our best friendship to my face but then never have time when I actually try to plan something.
The closest thing I have to a best friend right now is another mom in the neighborhood who I pay to take Bella to and from school for me.
I feel friendless. It's like my closest friends are virtual and live in my computer. I'm so lonely :(
I'm sorry you feel that way Naomi! But I also know exactly how you feel. I have no IRL friends. I have twitter friends, and blog friends, but that's it. I think so much changes when everyone becomes parents.
ReplyDeleteI've felt the way you're feeling so many times. It's the worst feeling in the world. I wish I had some answers, but I don't. Though I am nice, pleasant and I hope fun to be around, I too have had a hard time finding friends. It's hard to be a military family because you don't live by family, and then friends are so hard to come by. All I can say is, try to get out more if you can. Be open to starting a conversation with someone you cross paths with, because sooner or later you'll find a good friend. One that won't ignore you or make you feel unwanted. Hope you start feeling better! :)
ReplyDeletemove to BG girl...Nick says I"m a good friend :P
ReplyDeleteIm sorry Naomi!! I know how you feel- all my friends are dumb to! They dont like to hang out with me because I like to have my kids with me and dont like to leave them all the time. funny thing is that they all have kids but they like to leave there kids every weekend to have girls nights. its so annoying. im lucky that i have one good friend to feels the same as me! Sometimes you just get sick of trying. Hope you feel better, if you lived out here we would for sure hang out!!
ReplyDeleteI hope you feel better Naomi, I hate it when I have feelings of loneliness, it is just so empty. Sometimes I just have to tell myself, "get up, get a shower, open the curtains, put on some music and do something productive", amazing how those simple things (though sometimes hard to do) make such a big difference. Hugs...
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